Listen up

This first sentence is supposed to hook you. I’m supposed to write something that makes you want to keep reading. Something that convinces you to engage, pay attention, listen up. It’s a lot more difficult than it sounds. Humans are not good at listening. We aren’t. We’re much better at talking. Social media has made […]

Notes on the “How I fell in love with Jesus” series

Today I want to share some thoughts on my story both fun and serious. (Here are the links to the series just in case you need them: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3) Fun part first!Why use wildflowers as the visual theme for a story with such dark elements as sexual abuse, attempted suicide, and […]

The Global Pandemic is Trauma

Today I’m going to step back from the How To Lead Your Feelings series to share a podcast that has helped me be honest with myself about how I’m currently handling the stress of the pandemic compared to how I want to handle it. The Allender Center Podcast, hosted by Dr. Dan Allender and Rachael […]

How To Lead Your Feelings: Fear

Honestly, I’m afraid to write this post. I’m afraid every time I write a blog post, and I’m definitely afraid to publish my book, Tasting Dirt: When Your’re Disappointed With God. I feel fear about a lot of different things. So do you, because fear is part of being human. Fear has a very beneficial […]

How To Lead Your Feelings: Happiness

Have you ever heard/read that “God is more interested in your holiness than your happiness” or “God is more concerned about our character than our comfort?”Did you just wilt a little inside? I noticed a growing sadness even as I typed those sentences out. Don’t worry though, we wont stay there because neither of those […]

How To Lead Your Feelings: Don’t Ignore Them

I hate being ignored. Don’t you? I believe we have all experienced being ignored at some point or another. As an adult I’ve experienced it most frequently in group conversation when I’m in the middle of saying something and another person starts talking, and keeps talking, as if I hadn’t been saying anything at all. […]

Implications

Fear of Worthlessness (Part 4) So far in this series we’ve explored how the fear of being worthless drives us into all kinds of ineffective and ultimately harmful attempts to create value for ourselveshow radically accepting our inability to make ourselves valuable opens the door to accepting value from an outside sourceand how God, Jesus, […]

The Source

(Fear of Worthlessness Part 3) Last week I made you angry by saying you’re worthless. We all are. By ourselves we cannot dredge up enough usefulness or goodness to generate a value capable of withstanding our inevitable failures. Our first reaction to this reality is rebellion.I won’t let this be true! I’ll make myself valuable […]

Rebellion or Radical Acceptance

(Fear of Worthlessness Part 2) I hope after last week’s post you’ve started to notice which of your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and actions are driven by fear of worthlessness, and how it is affecting your relationships with God and others. How can we respond to this fear when we recognize it and stop letting it […]

Thomas the Tank Engine and Humanity’s Greatest Fear

Image Source (Part 1) Last week the topic of patience prompted an in depth look at misconceptions we hold about God’s character and the fear those misconceptions produce in us. Specifically the fear of asking God for help because we think the kind of help he might give us will hurt. Living in fear of […]