Listening: All 5 Parts of the Story

Happy 4th of July everyone! Today I’m going to continue our deeper look at listening by going over the details of hearing someone’s story. (Check out my last post: Listen up, for the brief instructions of how to listen well) Remember that our goal for listening is to reach the point where we understand the […]

Listen up

This first sentence is supposed to hook you. I’m supposed to write something that makes you want to keep reading. Something that convinces you to engage, pay attention, listen up. It’s a lot more difficult than it sounds. Humans are not good at listening. We aren’t. We’re much better at talking. Social media has made […]

Notes on the “How I fell in love with Jesus” series

Today I want to share some thoughts on my story both fun and serious. (Here are the links to the series just in case you need them: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3) Fun part first!Why use wildflowers as the visual theme for a story with such dark elements as sexual abuse, attempted suicide, and […]

How To Lead Your Feelings: Loneliness

Social distancing, isolation, quarantine, stay-at-home, these are all terms we are much more acquainted with than we were just a month ago. But you don’t have to be isolated to feel lonely. Even if you’re an essential worker and are still on the job, or if you’re working from home while trying to finish your […]

How Easter Leads Us Out of Shame

Shame.It’s more than guilt.Guilt says, “I have done something bad.” Shame says, “I am bad.” It’s more than embarrassment.Embarrassment says, “Others disapprove of what I’ve done.”Shame says, “Others disapprove of me.” Shame is the soul crushing weight of believing “I am worthless. I have nothing of value to offer, so no one values me. I […]

Implications

Fear of Worthlessness (Part 4) So far in this series we’ve explored how the fear of being worthless drives us into all kinds of ineffective and ultimately harmful attempts to create value for ourselveshow radically accepting our inability to make ourselves valuable opens the door to accepting value from an outside sourceand how God, Jesus, […]

The Source

(Fear of Worthlessness Part 3) Last week I made you angry by saying you’re worthless. We all are. By ourselves we cannot dredge up enough usefulness or goodness to generate a value capable of withstanding our inevitable failures. Our first reaction to this reality is rebellion.I won’t let this be true! I’ll make myself valuable […]

Rebellion or Radical Acceptance

(Fear of Worthlessness Part 2) I hope after last week’s post you’ve started to notice which of your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and actions are driven by fear of worthlessness, and how it is affecting your relationships with God and others. How can we respond to this fear when we recognize it and stop letting it […]

Thomas the Tank Engine and Humanity’s Greatest Fear

Image Source (Part 1) Last week the topic of patience prompted an in depth look at misconceptions we hold about God’s character and the fear those misconceptions produce in us. Specifically the fear of asking God for help because we think the kind of help he might give us will hurt. Living in fear of […]