Resolutions, Goals, and Absolution

Happy New Year!!I’ll (try to) keep this short and sweet. It’s day 1 of the new year, and, if you’re like many humans, you plan to capitalize on the motivation provided by a fresh start. You’ve resolved to make changes, you’ve thought of some new goals, you cleaned out the snack cabinet and ate all […]

A Desperate Christmas Eve

It’s Christmas Eve, and my 8-year-old son is desperate to open presents. Dorian’s been asking for a month to open his stocking (which I just stuffed two days ago). Waiting is soooooooo difficult. The anticipation is “killing” him, he says. “Can’t we just open one? I just want to get Christmas started!”Do you remember the […]

I can't even holiday.

“What’s wrong with me? I can’t think…I can’t focus…I can’t even…even…Gahas;ldkfj;ahgdjf…”That, my friends, is the sound of overwhelmed. It also happens to be a direct quote from me that my husband heard multiple times over the past several weeks. Yeah, I finished the pre-Thanksgiving blog series on healthy boundaries with family only to find I […]

There’s one in every family…

Boundaries: Home For The Holidays Part 4 So far in this series we’ve talked about what healthy boundaries are (and are not), looked at how Jesus set boundaries and responded to people with unhealthy boundaries, and learned how to grow away from the primary illusion contributing to boundary issues. In this post we will apply […]

The Illusion of “Make”

Boundaries: Home For The Holidays Part 3 When I was fifteen I worked at Hillside Stables cleaning stalls, feeding horses, and whatever else needed done. Shortly after I started working there P.K., the owner of the stables and my boss, warned me about a horse named Blizzard. Every six weeks the horses needed de-worming paste […]

Jesus Dealt With Drama Too

(Boundaries: Home for the Holidays Part 2) We started this series with an overview of interpersonal boundaries. As a reminder: Boundaries are like property lines which separate your responsibilities from other peoples’. We are each responsible for our own Beliefs, Thoughts, Feelings, and Actions. Healthy boundaries make space for obedience to God (value-aligned living). Now […]

Boundaries: Home for the Holidays

(Boundaries: Home for the Holidays Part 1) The holiday season is both excitedly anticipated for its joys and infamous for it’s struggles. Difficult family gatherings are the specific struggle I have in mind, so for the next month we will learn how to live out healthy interpersonal boundaries in preparation for the festivities and family […]