How To Lead Your Feelings: Don't Ignore Them

I hate being ignored. Don’t you? I believe we have all experienced being ignored at some point or another. As an adult I’ve experienced it most frequently in group conversation when I’m in the middle of saying something and another person starts talking, and keeps talking, as if I hadn’t been saying anything at all. […]

There’s one in every family…

Boundaries: Home For The Holidays Part 4 So far in this series we’ve talked about what healthy boundaries are (and are not), looked at how Jesus set boundaries and responded to people with unhealthy boundaries, and learned how to grow away from the primary illusion contributing to boundary issues. In this post we will apply […]

The Illusion of “Make”

Boundaries: Home For The Holidays Part 3 When I was fifteen I worked at Hillside Stables cleaning stalls, feeding horses, and whatever else needed done. Shortly after I started working there P.K., the owner of the stables and my boss, warned me about a horse named Blizzard. Every six weeks the horses needed de-worming paste […]

Jesus Dealt With Drama Too

(Boundaries: Home for the Holidays Part 2) We started this series with an overview of interpersonal boundaries. As a reminder: Boundaries are like property lines which separate your responsibilities from other peoples’. We are each responsible for our own Beliefs, Thoughts, Feelings, and Actions. Healthy boundaries make space for obedience to God (value-aligned living). Now […]

Boundaries: Home for the Holidays

(Boundaries: Home for the Holidays Part 1) The holiday season is both excitedly anticipated for its joys and infamous for it’s struggles. Difficult family gatherings are the specific struggle I have in mind, so for the next month we will learn how to live out healthy interpersonal boundaries in preparation for the festivities and family […]

“Emotions are Data, not Directives”

Today I’m going to do something a little different and review a TED Talk which a friend was kind enough to send me last week. Susan David is a psychologist, researcher, and professor at Harvard University. Through her research she has developed a set of “psychological skills critical to thriving in times of complexity and […]