Asking for What We Want

“I’m hungry!” announced my 9 year old as he exploded through the back door, dripping wet and covered in mud and grass from playing in the wading pool. He walked into the kitchen staring at me expectantly. I noticed that I felt annoyed with him and checked in for what that might mean. Ah, I’ve …

The Formula for Leading Your Emotions

Ok, let’s get back to the purpose of this blog and talk about leading our emotions so we can be led by the Spirit of God instead of being dragged around by fear, pain, anger, and the pursuit of distraction. We are often at a loss for what to do with our intense feelings and …

Books That Have Changed My Life

I recently accomplished a lifelong dream by publishing my first book! A large part of what inspired that dream is my experience of reading books that have changed my life by helping me connect more deeply with God, others, and myself. Today I want to share some of them with you! They are not all …

Links For My Book – Tasting Dirt: When You’re Disappointed With God

It’s live! Three years of work are finally realizing one of my life dreams – to publish a book. And it’s even better than I imagined because writing this book was and exercise in vulnerable and honest obedience to God, so he can use it to help others heal from life’s disappointments! Here is the …

Listening: All 5 Parts of the Story

Happy 4th of July everyone! Today I’m going to continue our deeper look at listening by going over the details of hearing someone’s story. (Check out my last post: Listen up, for the brief instructions of how to listen well) Remember that our goal for listening is to reach the point where we understand the …

Listen up

This first sentence is supposed to hook you. I’m supposed to write something that makes you want to keep reading. Something that convinces you to engage, pay attention, listen up. It’s a lot more difficult than it sounds. Humans are not good at listening. We aren’t. We’re much better at talking. Social media has made …

Notes on the “How I fell in love with Jesus” series

Today I want to share some thoughts on my story both fun and serious. (Here are the links to the series just in case you need them: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3) Fun part first!Why use wildflowers as the visual theme for a story with such dark elements as sexual abuse, attempted suicide, and …

How To Lead Your Feelings: Loneliness

Social distancing, isolation, quarantine, stay-at-home, these are all terms we are much more acquainted with than we were just a month ago. But you don’t have to be isolated to feel lonely. Even if you’re an essential worker and are still on the job, or if you’re working from home while trying to finish your …

How Easter Leads Us Out of Shame

Shame.It’s more than guilt.Guilt says, “I have done something bad.” Shame says, “I am bad.” It’s more than embarrassment.Embarrassment says, “Others disapprove of what I’ve done.”Shame says, “Others disapprove of me.” Shame is the soul crushing weight of believing “I am worthless. I have nothing of value to offer, so no one values me. I …

The Global Pandemic is Trauma

Today I’m going to step back from the How To Lead Your Feelings series to share a podcast that has helped me be honest with myself about how I’m currently handling the stress of the pandemic compared to how I want to handle it. The Allender Center Podcast, hosted by Dr. Dan Allender and Rachael …