Links For My Book – Tasting Dirt: When You’re Disappointed With God

It’s live! Three years of work are finally realizing one of my life dreams – to publish a book. And it’s even better than I imagined because writing this book was and exercise in vulnerable and honest obedience to God, so he can use it to help others heal from life’s disappointments! Here is the […]

Listening: All 5 Parts of the Story

Happy 4th of July everyone! Today I’m going to continue our deeper look at listening by going over the details of hearing someone’s story. (Check out my last post: Listen up, for the brief instructions of how to listen well) Remember that our goal for listening is to reach the point where we understand the […]

Listen up

This first sentence is supposed to hook you. I’m supposed to write something that makes you want to keep reading. Something that convinces you to engage, pay attention, listen up. It’s a lot more difficult than it sounds. Humans are not good at listening. We aren’t. We’re much better at talking. Social media has made […]

Notes on the “How I fell in love with Jesus” series

Today I want to share some thoughts on my story both fun and serious. (Here are the links to the series just in case you need them: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3) Fun part first!Why use wildflowers as the visual theme for a story with such dark elements as sexual abuse, attempted suicide, and […]

How To Lead Your Feelings: Loneliness

Social distancing, isolation, quarantine, stay-at-home, these are all terms we are much more acquainted with than we were just a month ago. But you don’t have to be isolated to feel lonely. Even if you’re an essential worker and are still on the job, or if you’re working from home while trying to finish your […]

How Easter Leads Us Out of Shame

Shame.It’s more than guilt.Guilt says, “I have done something bad.” Shame says, “I am bad.” It’s more than embarrassment.Embarrassment says, “Others disapprove of what I’ve done.”Shame says, “Others disapprove of me.” Shame is the soul crushing weight of believing “I am worthless. I have nothing of value to offer, so no one values me. I […]

The Global Pandemic is Trauma

Today I’m going to step back from the How To Lead Your Feelings series to share a podcast that has helped me be honest with myself about how I’m currently handling the stress of the pandemic compared to how I want to handle it. The Allender Center Podcast, hosted by Dr. Dan Allender and Rachael […]

How To Lead Your Feelings: Lizard

Have you ever gotten stuck? Physically stuck, wedged, trapped, unable to move?Many of us feel stuck right now. Our physical movement is limited to essential travel only with potentially heavy consequences for going about our normal lives. It’s very stressful. This situation can also cause us to get emotionally stuck in cycles of fear, anger, […]

How To Lead Your Feelings: Anger

Earlier today Steven took our toddler, Declan, out to our minivan so he could pretend to drive while Steven loaded some recycling. Declan loves to sit in the front seat, move the steering wheel, and honk the horn. He hates when it’s time to be done.When Steven brought Declan back inside the house he screamed […]

How To Lead Your Feelings: Nap Time

Usually I write long posts, but this time I’ll get straight to the point – it’s nap time. One of my favorite pastors and all-around human beings, Dr. Joel C. Hunter, once said, “Sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do in your situation is take a nap.”I hope you feel as much freedom to […]