How Easter Leads Us Out of Shame

Shame.It’s more than guilt.Guilt says, “I have done something bad.” Shame says, “I am bad.” It’s more than embarrassment.Embarrassment says, “Others disapprove of what I’ve done.”Shame says, “Others disapprove of me.” Shame is the soul crushing weight of believing “I am worthless. I have nothing of value to offer, so no one values me. I …

The Global Pandemic is Trauma

Today I’m going to step back from the How To Lead Your Feelings series to share a podcast that has helped me be honest with myself about how I’m currently handling the stress of the pandemic compared to how I want to handle it. The Allender Center Podcast, hosted by Dr. Dan Allender and Rachael …

How To Lead Your Feelings: Lizard

Have you ever gotten stuck? Physically stuck, wedged, trapped, unable to move?Many of us feel stuck right now. Our physical movement is limited to essential travel only with potentially heavy consequences for going about our normal lives. It’s very stressful. This situation can also cause us to get emotionally stuck in cycles of fear, anger, …

How To Lead Your Feelings: Anger

Earlier today Steven took our toddler, Declan, out to our minivan so he could pretend to drive while Steven loaded some recycling. Declan loves to sit in the front seat, move the steering wheel, and honk the horn. He hates when it’s time to be done.When Steven brought Declan back inside the house he screamed …

How To Lead Your Feelings: Love

At first, love might not strike you as a feeling that needs led. Especially in our “follow your heart” culture. It seems like you either feel love or you don’t. If you do then great! If not, well, you better start looking for it again. But what if love could be chosen? Love, like the …

How To Lead Your Feelings: Fear

Honestly, I’m afraid to write this post. I’m afraid every time I write a blog post, and I’m definitely afraid to publish my book, Tasting Dirt: When Your’re Disappointed With God. I feel fear about a lot of different things. So do you, because fear is part of being human. Fear has a very beneficial …

How To Lead Your Feelings: Happiness

Have you ever heard/read that “God is more interested in your holiness than your happiness” or “God is more concerned about our character than our comfort?”Did you just wilt a little inside? I noticed a growing sadness even as I typed those sentences out. Don’t worry though, we wont stay there because neither of those …

How To Lead Your Feelings: Choose Gratitude

7402Seven thousand, four hundred and twoThat’s how many gifts I’ve written down over the last 6 years, as of this morning. I try to write down at least three each day. Some days I have more, and some days I struggle to come up with just three things I’m thankful for that aren’t repetitive or …

Resolutions, Goals, and Absolution

Happy New Year!!I’ll (try to) keep this short and sweet. It’s day 1 of the new year, and, if you’re like many humans, you plan to capitalize on the motivation provided by a fresh start. You’ve resolved to make changes, you’ve thought of some new goals, you cleaned out the snack cabinet and ate all …

2019 Blog Award!

I was pleasantly surprised this morning to discover that my blog has been nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award! Thank you Temi Michael-O at ChristianMommas.com for nominating my final post in the Healthy Boundaries: Home For The Holidays series: There’s One In Every Family I feel very honored to be nominated, and I’m glad to …